From dating to serious relationship

Getting serious doesn’t involve some secret peyote fuelled desert ritual, just clear intent and action on your part.

Once this initial concept has been formed it’s very difficult to change; think of it like a longer version of a first impression. Some people want no strings attached fun while others are interested in relationships; it’s all good as long as both people have a clear understanding of the other’s expectations so no one gets hurt.

It doesn’t matter that you rarely lie and don’t put up with drama if you lied about your job to sleep with her and the first time she acted up you tolerated it. If you’re dating or sleeping with multiple women at the same time, it’s a good idea to make sure each woman is cool with being non-exclusive.

But before I get to that, it’s important to understand that my advice will be useless unless you’re ready to be in a long term relationship.

Talking about how to develop yourself to the point where you’re ready for a long term relationship could fill an entire book (which I’m writing), but there are three easy things you can do that will drastically improve your chances of having a happy, healthy relationship. Do Everything you Want to Do That Might Interfere with or Ruin a Long Term Commitment. Infidelity, substance abuse, and excessive partying, to name a few.

You will become dependent, needy, and emotionally off balance, none of which are attractive qualities. Develop a healthy, balanced routine of maintaining yourself physically, socially, mentally, and emotionally, and don’t let a woman pull you away from that.

If you have Muay Thai class on Wednesday nights and poker with the boys on Mondays, a relationship shouldn’t interfere with those things.

Relationships don’t need to cut into daily workouts or time with your buds. If she shows psycho behaviour, she’s probably psycho.

Don’t be afraid to cut your losses and move on, there are lots of girls out there. You can also check out the video below, which is a 30 minute talk Ryan did recently on Relationships.

There are so many religious, cultural, emotional and personal issues attached to it. So if he's sticking around, but not committing, it's not the sex that is to blame.

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